Rosa Smith-Montanaro blog

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Break the trance

I began the week talking about the role you play and asking you to consider being at cause for your results when it comes to your weight. As I suspected, this did not sit well with some of my readers. People opted out almost immediately after reading my ezine about the topic. I am not surprised, change is only possible when you are ready. When someone isn’t ready, they reject the idea of being at cause and stay stuck. They walk around in a trance and call it reality.

But the reality is that the trance is a result of focusing only on the aspects of your life that support the limiting belief. When we choose to change, we must look at the part we play. It requires a shift in behavior and thinking resulting in a whole new trance. Hopefully one that is empowering. It seems like work, it is not always comfortable, it takes time and it is worth it.

A trance in life is similar to following an unspoken program, my trance used to be overlooking unacceptable or demeaning behavior and dismissing it as no big deal. When I decided it was time to love and honor myself, that relationship didn’t fit, it was painfully out of place. I had to snap out of my old trance and then I saw clearly how I was using food as a way to numb my real feelings. I was feeling unloved and inadequate. This was not easy to admit, but to grow and change I had to face my part and be at cause. The alternative was being a victim and that was not going to empower me at all. The more I was willing to be at cause the more power I had to change.

You can change almost anything in your life when you first look at the role you play.

posted by MindOverPlatter at 9:44 PM